Chester Bennington RIP – Notes on Suicide

I don’t tend to say much beyond a few words on social media when there is a celebrity death, even when it’s linked to mental health I tend to sit back and keep quiet letting the noise run through but something about the noise around Chester Bennington’s tragic death has moved me and I feel the need to speak.

Chester Bennington wore several hats but most notably was the lead singer of Linkin Park. There are few who won’t have heard of them and I was privileged to have seen them live a few times over the years and Chester commanded the stage.

It was no secret he struggled with depression and addiction problems and he took his life at just 41 years.

I thought people’s understanding of mental health was further forward than it is. I’ve seen so much vitriol towards Chester online for taking his own life. So much hate, and anger. Including Brian Welch from Korn writing a Facebook post where he calls suicide cowardly. 

I’ve been in this position, several times, but on one in particular I almost died. I know first hand what it means to reach the point where you see no other way out than to take your own life and the last thing in the world it is is cowardly. It is fucking terrifying. It is the scariest thing in the world to go through with a suicide plan, but it also feels like the only option you have left. That is something that will probably make no sense to anybody who hasn’t been THAT depressed, and hasn’t felt THAT need to end their life. But I promise you no coward would do it. 

I also hate all this abuse, what does hurling abuse at people who are gone do? It doesn’t bring them back, and it only hurts the people they left behind. Their families have to now pick up the pieces, try to come to an understanding of why this happened, where his mind was, why things got so bad for him. All the abuse hurling, name calling only hurts them. If people feel they need to deal with their own fried by venting in that way do it privately not somewhere the family could see it, have some bloody respect!

Finally, and this is a real annoyance for me and I don’t normally bother with stuff like this, people commit murder, they commit rape, they commit crimes. People don’t commit suicide! They die from suicide! When the hell are we going to stop using this archaic language?! Suicide is no longer a crime! That went out with dark ages we need to start showing some respect, maybe if we start talking about it a bit more respectfully people will start respecting the mental health issues connected to it.

As for Chester Bennington a light went out with him, he was an extremely talented man who could light up a stage. I’m deeply saddened for the pain he must have been suffering and my thoughts are with his family and friends. 

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16 thoughts on “Chester Bennington RIP – Notes on Suicide

  1. Great post, as a music nut myself it always hits home when such talent is lost at a young age. I think it was the fact he took his life on Chris Cornell’s birthday that got me choked.
    Take care, have a good weekend, do I still need to keep my fingers crossed? xx

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  2. I will admit that Chester and Linkin Park meant nothing to me in my Universe as they were not my style of music but… I sympathise with all mourning the loss. It is NEVER pleasant when one loses a talent one admires and it’s always worse when it involves suicide. I have lost a handful of people I admire via suicide and it’s bloody awful.

    What compells me to make this comment is I’m in total agreement with Claire’s stance and feelings on suicide. I too get irked when morons dismiss it as a “cowardly” act – suicide? Cowardly? Trust me, you gotta have SERIOUS balls and pain to go through with it. I know… have been there a few times and my nerve failed me at the last moment. Anyone who takes that final jump, or squeeze the trigger… that is in no way a cowardly act in my eyes and it p****s me off when they get dismissed and vilified as being cowardly.

    I lost one of my best friends when he took his life at the age of just 18. It was and remains one of the most awful things that ever happened in my life. To this day, it still haunts me. It still upsets me that I had no signs of what he was going to do. I still wonder what I could had done to maybe help or save him. I have tried numerous times to imagine what he must had been feeling when he reached that point.

    I agree. It’s time that the phrase “commit” suicide is nuked. It is archaic and misleading.

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    1. Hey Baz!

      Good to hear from you although the subject sucks rather doesn’t it? Thanks for adding your thoughts, I’m not surprised we are on the same wavelength here give our similar paths in this area.

      I’m so sorry you lost a friend to suicide and so young, I didn’t know that before. I can believe that would stay with you through your life. 😔

      As an aside, lovely to see your name pop up, I was actually thinking about emailing you a few days ago just to say hi then ingot distracted and I didn’t so I hope you are doing OK. 😊

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      1. Yes… my friend Keith’s suicide was a huge shock to me and in many ways he feels like a martyr to me in that his death and the ramifications and after shocks acted like a lesson. In my suicidal moments, Keith would spring to mind and I’d remember the pain and confusion I felt about it and the little man inside me would think “could I really inflict that upon my family and friends?” and that was what always held me back. His death helped save mine several times.

        I’m fine thanks Claire. Will send you an email sometime in the next few days. Take care! 🙂

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  3. I think people shouldn’t judge until they have been there, with the pills in their hand or the knife against their wrist. I lost a friend to suicide a couple of years ago, and it’s the hardest thing to accept that you can’t always save a person, however much you try. I’ve lived with my own suicidal ideation, on and off, since I was 14, so I can see it from both sides, I guess?
    . I’m not a fan of Linkin Park but my heart hurts for Chester’s family, his friends and his fans 😦

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  4. Excellent post, Claire. The hate isn’t right. I’ve suffered a similar condition and I understand that it’s never anyone’s fault. It’s an illness that isn’t taken seriously enough in my opinion. I’m in the process of writing a post about this now. It’s just so sad. 😦 Thank you for sharing your story. ❤ ❤ ❤

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